I am sitting here on a Sunday afternoon absolutely thrilled to be doing laundry and surfing the internet while splicing in chunks of homework here and there. It is a beautiful thing, the house is silent as #1 and #3 child are sleeping from being up all night. Husband and #2 and #4 children have headed (with me!) to the grandma house.
Over the years I have gone from absolutely loving going to the grandma house to dreading it and the visits they make here. When the kids were small it was nice to have a low maintainance outing where I was sure to get help wrangling my little ones. It was nice to be a bit pampered and sit around while someone else made dinner and cleaned up the mess. When things soured a few years back I managed to get myself together enough to make do for my immediate family but have nothing left to offer for the extended family. I figure, I remarried their son and I continue to be the 100% financial support for the family and they have offered to help with the kids 0% over the last 2-3-4 or so years (not that it is needed anymore it’s just sad because #3 and #4 children would love a night of being an “only child” at the grandma house) that I am pretty much done with formalities. The grandpa has gone from a coffee drinking, cigarette smoking warm memory of my late grandpa (who I loved) to an irritable jerk who makes snappy unneccessary comments to #4 child. That makes me glad the invites have been withdrawn- would hate to have my youngest subject to that without supervision. I have to bite my tongue to not call “A—–e”. My mother in law, in the fashion of many has this picture of herself as some matriarch. Always wants this and that and save the chicken breast and best piece of meat it’s sort of a reverse asian culture thing or something. It’s irritating.
One day I will move out of this state and gleefully wave goodbye, sorry you didn’t make the most of the 15+ god awful years I spent here less than 1 1/2 hours from your home. Hope I am too far away to visit and plan to have a house to small for you to come live with us!
